Weep so You Do not Stress

Whether you are someone who easily cry? Not only the face of death the people closest to, but also when watching a sad movie, hear the stories of friends being bad, or hit by problems at work?

The crying is often seen as a weakness. With a cry, a person is often considered weak, not strong, and so forth. Crying is seen as a sign of one's soul that fragile or easy to pity. However, it turns out crying can also be seen from the health side.

"Crying is a wonderful thing. This is a sign of strength and authenticity, not a sign of weakness," says Judith Orloff, MD, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of the book Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life. He not only studied the emotional impact of the crying, but also physical health benefits. "This is a function of natural healing."

That is, to cry, you can actually become healthier, according to Orloff. What are the benefits in terms of health?

Tears of a natural way of our body to process stress. Physically, it tears like sea water, salty liquid that helps lubricate the eye and drive turbulence stress hormones and other toxins. In various studies, the cries also cause us to produce endorphins, hormones that give a sense of fun.

However, what is the situation like that can cause a weeping regarded as something healthy?

Grief and loss, for example. If you lose your loved ones, crying is the only way to release a sadness. If you insist on not cry in situations like that, it will only cause you depression.

To know when you might need to cry, you need to identify the five major causes of stress and frustration in your life. You can write on a piece of paper. Then you have to associate these emotions at an event so you can see the trigger. After having this awareness, you will be able to manage emotions better.

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How Crying Healthy

a researcher in Israel find out aspects of the evolution of crying. He speculated, crying is a way to communicate the weakness of self to others because of tears when crying interrupted views and make yourself without a defense. People who care and there when you're crying can bring emotion in between you and him.

How to get a healthy cry:
The researchers found that in order to make the crying has a healthful effect for emotional health, it takes certain conditions, among others:
* You must have people to lean back and lamented. People who get support are reported to have wept when cleaning emotions better than those who weep alone. Try to find friends or loved ones who can empathize with the problem you experienced.

* After the crying, it would be better if you managed to find a solution to the problem. We'll feel better when we cry over an existing problem solutions. If you cry before you deal with situations that make you want to cry, you tend to be difficult to achieve the result of crying, or even make yourself feel worse.

* You need to ensure that you cry in the right place. Those who feel embarrassed when I cry, according to a report, do not feel the cleanliness of emotion or mood improvement. If you feel embarrassed to cry in public or in front of some people, you should hold the tears that, go to a safer place, for example, toilets.

* Cries also will not provide relief if you have mental problems, such as depression or excessive anxiety. If you find that you feel even worse after crying, you should see a doctor or therapist to see if you indeed have a psychological problem.

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Secret Behind Men Cry

Women want a sensitive man as well as strong. Most people, especially due to the values ​​in the family, consider a man cry like finding the weakness of men. Men are always expected to be strong even to hold his emotions, not as a free woman crying to express emotion.

"Men tend to change over 20 years ago. Gender roles are not as tight as the past, and changes in economic levels make some men do not show the side of macho. Men are also easily express his emotions by crying. Yet many people still can not accept this change, and this is why guy gets no sympathy when crying, "said clinical psychologist, Michael Diamond, PhD, who is also the author of My Father Before Me.

The more mature age men, they tend to be more comfortable with themselves, and have a more forward orientation relationship with higher sensitivity. Men become do not care what people say if saw him cry, as long as feels comfortable, therefore, added Diamond. This character can also be seen as a power guy.

Nonverbal expert Joe Navarro, author of Louder Than Words discover the meaning behind crying when he watched the scene when some world leaders to cry, such as:
* Wyclef Jean (actor / singer), reacts with tears when allegations came in action behind the charity. Her eyes show how this man fighting the pain of deep, Navarro analysis.

* Roger Federer, tennis player who lost in his last match in 2008. This man looked down to show deep emotion, eyes and nose red. This only happens when he actually cried.

* President Barack Obama, a day after the death of his grandmother. Changes to his face showing deep sadness.

* South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, who wept after admitting the affair. Emotions that emerge having been caught cheating and emotional because they feel guilty difficult to distinguish, and this is what emerged in tears.

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